2 Temptations Church Leaders Face When Visiting Other Churches

Taking time to visit other churches in your area or across the country is a great way to grow in your leadership. I love seeing a church in action and I always come away with pages of notes about things I want to do differently or consider for my church. Whether it’s a small church or a “brand-name mega church,” many leaders use these visits as a chance to grow and learn.

However, if we don’t prepare our team or ourselves, we can miss the learning opportunities these church visits present to us. Over the years, I’ve taken dozens of leaders to visit other churches and I’ve found that people are tempted to two extremes in their responses:

  • “This is basically what we’re doing …” // It never fails: take a group of leaders to a church 10x larger than any of their own churches and someone will “write off” the experience because they don’t see anything different between what they do and what the visited church does. They see and highlight the surface similarities and assume that everything else is the same. What a missed opportunity! Rather than doing the hard work of looking beyond the surface and attempting to find points of similarity and departure that could inform their ministry, these leader check their brains at the door. They miss the opportunity to innovate. This leads to decline as people (leaders included) dismiss the church’s outreach. By definition, if you are learning from another church, you have much to learn! Lean in and find those points of departure.
  • “This can never happen at our church …” // The opposite end of the spectrum is being paralyzed by what you see and thinking that God couldn’t do anything on this scale at your church. Every team member you meet seems superhuman … every program you encounter is teeming with energy and purpose. This is a particular problem when you visit churches that are significantly larger than your own church, because the scale of ministry is hard to get your head around. In those moments, I always remember what my dad used to say, “Remember: they put their pants on one leg at a time too.” The amazing and inspiring thing about visiting a church is that God is using normal people like you and me to impact the world. He’s doing it there and can do it with you. Stay encouraged because God wants to do something great in your ministry. Visiting other churches should build up you and your team … not discourage or disengage you.

The problem with both of those extremes is that they block us from learning. They shut us down from taking in what is happening at the church you are visiting. I’ve seen this happen time and again with leading church visits. Here are a few strategies to fight these temptations:

  • Identify Your Temptations // Call out these two extreme reactions that could happen within you and your team. This will help you fight the urge to dismiss what you see. It also frames the experience and helps people maximize it.
  • Do Your Research // Before you land at the church, make sure you know what you are going to study. Often, there are literally hundreds of things that you could learn from other churches. Narrowing the field helps you focus and fight feelings of being overwhelmed.
  • Talk to Normal People // Don’t bother even attempting to talk with the “senior pastor” of the church. Engage with the staff and volunteers who are doing the ministry. You’ll be encouraged by how normal people are and by the level of commitment they have to the mission.
  • Brief, Lead, Debrief // If you are taking a team to visit another church, make sure you brief them ahead of time on what you want them to learn about. Lead your people through the experience and point out what you are learning. Finally, as the experience comes to an end, have the entire group reflect on what they learned. Shared learning can drive the lessons deep and chase away discouragement.
  • Slow Down // Don’t rush these experiences. See as much as you can possibly see. If they have 3 or 4 campuses, attempt to see as many as you can. Stay for Monday and see if you can get in on some of their weekly meetings. Often, a cursory view of another church doesn’t give you an accurate look at what is really happening with it. Getting more information will help you get a clearer picture.

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Rich Birch
Rich Birch is one of the early multi-site church pioneers in North America. He led the charge in helping The Meeting House in Toronto to become the leading multi-site church in Canada with over 5,000+ people in 18 locations. In addition, he served on the leadership team of Connexus Church in Ontario, a North Point Community Church Strategic Partner. He has also been a part of the lead team at Liquid Church - a 5 location multisite church serving the Manhattan facing suburbs of New Jersey. Liquid is known for it’s innovative approach to outreach and community impact. Rich is passionate about helping churches reach more people, more quickly through excellent execution.His latest book Church Growth Flywheel: 5 Practical Systems to Drive Growth at Your Church is an Amazon bestseller and is design to help your church reach more people in your community.